Delectable Dee

this life
these stolen breaths
they are hardly mine

these thoughts
for though I hold them
they will forever elude me
they look up to different masters
they owe their allegiance
to every fractured beat
of this trivial heart
and it's not even mine

these dreams
I nurse and woo them
coveted from somebody else's skies
i have nothing
but hopes and longings
and half sighs
to show to them

them who will never understand
how it is to be
constantly seeing life
through rose-stained glasses
and to touch walls that bleed
to be envious of one's own reflection
and to understand why
true love is jealous
and see exhilarating beauty
through every staggering blow
of pain
but they will never understand

and sometimes
I don't as well
times like today
when things seem so futile
and hope is impossibly so
so so fragile
and you fear
that a mere breath
or a soft whisper of the heart
will blow everything away
and you lose again
and you fall again

where will you find another foothold
where will you find another dream to nurse

these tears
they have etched a path of their own
dried and broken on my cheeks
do you sometimes wonder
if tears have tears as well
do they also cry
with reasons, perhaps
more valid than our own
for they are birthed in pain
(rarely for joy)
tell me
think about it
forgotten tears
everybody else didn't see
so wrapped up in their own demise
selfish and lost

I have but scars to show you
come closely and look here
this is where my wings were clipped
and these from the fall I took
these here,
oh, you should know
i've lost count of the number and times
I have willingly given my heart away
but isn't is amazing
how love cannot be depleted
So yes,
I have but scars to show for my pain
and some wounds
that are healing yet
they still bleed
every now and then
but I wish I could show you
the dying soul within



So I was complaining to my Mom last Saturday morning about this odd pain on the lower abdominal  section on the left side of my tummy...a bit near my hip bone. I was hiccuping before that so I thought that maybe it was just gas. My mom gave me several cups of hot tea and I started feeling better. We were convinced that it was just gas.

I went on with my day feeling okay. I re-potted several of my bonsai plants and transferred some of the carnation seedlings I've sown  two weeks ago. Hadn't had the slightest discomfort all throughout the day.

Sunday morning, around 1:55, I woke up to a massive attack of excruciating pain. I was doubling over and my toes curled into tight balls as I was trying to find ways to wait till the pain subsides. But it didn't. I  felt like they came in waves. It got so bad after 10 minutes that I started gasping for breaths because the pain was making it hard for me to breathe.

I was rushed to the ER. (Let's skip the other disgusting stuffs)

I was injected with something and I recall the kind nurse telling me that it's to stop me from nauseating.  Then after some procedures, urine sample and blood samples later, I was given a pain reliever and an antibiotic and was told to rest, go back to sleep if I can. Since the pain subsided gradually, I started relaxing and drifting off to sleep.

I was semi-conscious...I was looking out for anybody to go near my bedside so I could ask what was wrong with me. I feared that I had an appendicitis but I was assured that it wasn't so that was out of my worry then.

I think it was around 5am when I felt a commotion and everybody else seemed anxious. There's that tight and thick electrical current in the air and you get the feeling that a bit of added stress and everyone would just snap.  All the doctors there were interns and you can tell they were anxious, too.

I saw a white baby boy on the bed and he was in a way, next to me. If I reached hard enough, I would have been able to touch his curled fingers.  He was a handsome boy. He's got foreign blood in him, I could tell. But I didn't see someone  with him looking like his mother or any white guy indicating to be his father around. There was only an old lady - the Lola.

 Then a couple of minutes later, everything went quiet and everyone else started walking away from the bed.  Then the Lola crumbled down beside the bed, her face buried in her wrinkly hands and her small shoulders trembled like an inner earthquake was shaking her being. Something's not right.

I realized, then. The baby passed away. It was the first time I saw someone die in front of me...and it had to be a baby. A stranger, but a baby nonetheless. It was so heartbreaking. He didn't seem dead. He looked like he was sleeping. But I knew that he's passed on.

I couldn't bear to be so close to him. I had to leave. I called on to the nurse and asked her to call my mom. I wanted to go home.  I don't want to see them cover his tiny body. I overheard that his mom was in Kuwait and that his father was a Briton.

I wonder why both his parents were away. I wondered if things could have been different had one or both of his parents were with him that day. I didn't want to think about the anguish the mother would feel once she finds out about the shattering truth.  I wonder how the Lola would explain to the parents why and what went wrong.

What went wrong?


I am all over
scattered like dead leaves
anchored to the dance of the wind
strewn about like the lazy whispers of the breeze
 thoughts   cluttered    all    about
like mists on a chilly montain face
my days and years
all etched in fragments of words
hours by characters
even weeks by entries

djf (08/11/06)


i have been wallowing in a mess of pages scattered all over with unfinished scribbles and blotted inks all over them, some with folded corners or have been torn off from an old notebook with time-stained pages and faithful, steady grade-school lines.

I have so much I want to say but cannot find the words to say them right. I know what I see and how I feel but everything else is just a random blur.

Everybody else is thinking what I feel, feeling what I think. She just stole my line. He knows exactly what I mean. What is this? I stare at them and they lose all magnificence and suddenly, they're all just the same regurgitated attempts at defining the intangible.

Tina had me spot on and Adele profoundly sees through me. Elton took the words right out of my mouth and Eric, well, he is such a tease. Dancing around my emotions like he do and yes, he mouths them like as if he's reading them from my pain. Dan strums the heart-strings I am too much of a mute to breathe and Lisa, oh, Lisa! If I could be a fraction as good as her at saying what I feel, then perhaps I'll die with a smile on my face. Norah, she sings these odes my soul has been choking to  say.

I move from one play list to another gasping at each song, thinking, "Oh, I know! I know, I know, I know, right?"

On certain nights, I'd tell Frank, "I'll sing you that song." And on another one, I'd tell him again that. And on some songs, I could swear Elton had me in mind when he wrote Your Song.

I feel like the flood of emotions that are drowning me are bits and pieces of songs that everybody from one time or another have claimed to be theirs.

So unoriginal yet, so damn real.

She can't tell me that all of the love songs have been written,
'cause she's never been in love with you before.
Your skin smells lovely like sandalwood.
Your hair falls soft like animals.
I'm tryin' to keep cool, but everyone likes you.
I want to kiss the back of your neck,
The top of your spine where your hair hits,
And gnaw on your fingertips and fall asleep,
I'll talk you to sleep.
But I'll be the one, I will have chosen.
I'm tryin' to keep cool, but everyone here likes you
I'm not the only one.
Your skin smells lovely like sandalwood.
Your hair falls soft like animals,
And nothing else matters to me.
She can't tell me that all of the love songs have been written,
'cause she's never been in love with you before,
In love with you before.
Your hand,
So hot,
Burns a hole in
My hand.
I wanted to show you.


I had a brush with a mad man yesterday. Okay, so maybe he wasn't really mad at all. He didn't have any foam in his mouth nor was he rabid like a dog. He was American and he was sly. He scared me, too.

I have had several unpleasant experiences with American guys who are here as tourist before. I have had two who stalked me when I was in college and it was scary. I had to report them both to the police. I had another stalker who loved to text and call me at ungodly hours. He'd just breathe  heavily on the other side of the line not saying anything. Other times, he'd send me text messages saying he loved what I wore that day or that he thought I was very pretty today. I was living alone in a huge apartment that time, the house having 6 rooms. My mom got so worried that she had to send my dad to stay and baby sit me for an entire semester.

I have quite forgotten the feeling of alarm now when yesterday's episode happened. The terror and panic came rushing back in and until now, I feel unsettled even when I am now constantly surrounded by my family.

I bumped into my high school classmate's dad who is a Missionary/Pastor and we chatted for a bit. Then we said our goodbyes and went on our different ways. He went to pay some bills and I went inside the grocery store to buy stuffs.

Fifteen minutes later, we bumped into each other again inside the supermarket and he said my "white" friend asked him for my number. "Who?" I asked. He said a tall white guy approached him after we parted earlier and asked him for my mobile number, saying that we're friends and that he lost the number I gave him. Since my friend's Dad didn't have my number (good thing, too and I don't think he'd really give it to a stranger), he told the guy sorry and that he should go. He described the guy to me and I said I don't know anybody who fits that description. Not to mention that he's a white guy. So we both just laughed it off and said goodbye again.

About fifteen minutes after that second encounter, we bumped into each other again outside the grocery section. He was on his way to meet up with his wife and I was retrieving a couple of Acacia seedlings as bonsai materials, headed for home. We stopped and chatted again for a bit, laughing and sending our well wishes to our families when he stopped and said, "Look! There, that guy with the white shirt, that's him!" He probably saw the confusion on my face because he said, "Be careful, okay?" I thanked him and told him not to worry that it might just be a confusion. We parted ways again.

Walking slowly to the South back door of the mall to wait for the cab I called to pick me up, I heard footsteps, like someone's running behind me. I looked back and true enough, I saw the same guy my friend's dad pointed to me just a while back. He was grinning and he actually looked very friendly and it was obvious he was looking at me. I shifted my weight from one foot to another, getting a bit anxious and when he reached my side. I thought it was just a mix-up so I didn't freak out although I can feel an alarming feeling slowly creeping up inside me. Instincts, maybe?

He reached out his hand to me and said hi. He introduced himself, saying his name was Ryan Whats-his-name and that he was wondering if he could have my number and maybe call me up and we can go out and have some drinks or dinner together. I politely declined and said goodbye, trying hard to hold my composure. After about a few seconds, I half ran my way to a corner where the guards usually linger, trying my best not to look like a fool.

Maybe I over-reacted? I don't know. I did however strongly feel that I should be wary with him. Why was he so sly? Why did he talked to my friend's dad pretending to be my friend just so he could have my number? If he wanted it so bad, couldn't he just approach me and ask me? The fact that he tried deception alarmed me and I suddenly remembered the feeling of annoyance and helplessness and fear when I had those stalkers before. It isn't a petty thing, as well. Might sound like I'm over-reacting to some but if you have been through what I have, then you would take this seriously.

Similar thing happened with the other white guy before. First time I saw him was he was sitting on a table across from mine and we were having lunch. I felt like someone was staring at me (you can feel those things, in your gut, you can) and when I looked up, I saw him staring at me. When our eyes met, he smiled. I thought he was just being friendly so I just half-smiled and nod and continued eating, ignoring him. Moments later, he passed and stopped by my table and said, "You are very guapa" then walked away. I never thought more about it when the next day, I went back to the same place to eat lunch (I was a regular there) when people there told me that the guy came back and started asking for my name. That was disturbing. That afternoon, I saw him riding his mountain bike in front of my apartment and he smiled at me and called out, "Hey guapa!" He kept on doing that everyday for hours after that. He'd stop beside me when I'd wait for a cab and just look at me with this smile on his face. One time, I asked him what he wanted from me and he said nothing. He always call me guapa. I told him to stop following me and riding around my apartment and he said he can't. That's when I had to call the police. I had to move out and find a new apartment, too.

This bit's always perplexed me. I am in no way beautiful. I mean, seriously. And hello...I am FAT! Fat and plain. What is wrong with them? Why do I attract weirdos? My friend once joked to me about them, saying they were my "groupie". I have a bunch of white weirdos for a groupie.

Okay, I'm done ranting now.